Growing up in a family with a parent diagnosed with bipolar disorder can be really difficult to say the least. The rollercoaster ride of depression and anxiety can take a toll on you too. For me, the illness of my father led to insulting outbursts every day. There are 20 things to remember that will help you get out of this difficult situation with sanity. Here are 20 things I’ve experienced through my experience that if I had known when I was a teenager, I would have made the experience a little smoother. These tips can apply to any parent or loved one with bipolar, another mental illness, or some type of curse. I know my experience may be different than yours, but these tips will help anyone who is afraid of home due to toxicity and abuse environment in the family
1. It’s not your fault. You have no idea how many years I went thinking that it was my fault for my father’s violent outbursts and hurtful words. You have done nothing wrong, and I do not deserve the curse. Bipolar parents tend to flip everything around and project their pain or frustration on you.
2. Your parent is a person as well. We tend to look at our parents as our first loves and can do no wrong. The more mature you are, the more you will begin to see them as people who also sin. We can stop expecting certain things from them because they do what they do best. now we can remove them from the base and it frees them and us too.
3. As for the next point, your mother or father cannot help her. If they could, they would not hurt the child. Every time they say harmful or hurtful things, look like they are talking about a disease and not really.
4. You have the choice when you are an adult to love them from afar. That’s because I’m sorry for some people. This guilt comes because it is our parent. They could wish things were different. Sometimes space and time are healthy relationships. But sometimes you have to walk away from a relationship. Respect yourself enough to know when it feels right to walk away. You always have a choice.
5. Don’t take it out on you or your siblings. When I was younger, when I was dealing with my father’s anger, I didn’t know what to do with my own emotions. I only had anger, frustration and hurt in me. So I took myself out of fatal thoughts and brought out my younger sister. Talking to someone about what you are going through is very helpful. Allow those emotions to come to light for them like a volcano waiting to erupt. When we don’t express our emotions, that’s when we hide and we can have destructive thoughts, self-harm, depression, etc. Another great thing to do is journal. The writing is very sound. Or finding a creative outlet to express your pain and tone in your joy is very helpful.
6. Do what you enjoy, don’t let your mind dwell in negativity. I loved the bath for myself. I took so many baths to relax and de-stress. Music and writing were also an outlet for me. I found your solution. You will find something that really resonates with you. Wherever you focus your energy, the world is what yours will be. Focus on the beauty and joy that is around you. Just open your eyes to it.
7. Remission and acceptance. I used my anger towards my father so vigorously when I was younger that it hurt me. I have also spent so much time that my business would have been different. But it is otherwise. Instead of resisting, I accepted. Also let go. But the definition I used for forgiveness is to know that it was necessary to act in this way. Therefore, to accept what is, is relaxation. Honor them to have a heart in them, but remember from point 3, they are doing what they can. Also, most of all, always forgive yourself. It is good to feel these things towards them. It’s natural, but let’s go. The more we hold on to negative emotions, the more energy we take away.
8. Let go of the fear that you will be bipolar too. We create our world with our beliefs, so if you spend a lot of time worrying about them becoming bipolar, that triggers those symptoms. You may repeat some abusive cycles. Many people spend their whole lives trying to prove they are not like their parents. You are right. It is enough. Violence to keep trying or resisting some things and live as truly as you can. Whatever it will be.
9. Only you can control your actions. When they go through a manic-depressive run, that’s their outlet. If they feel sad, don’t be depressed either. Even if you feel that sad energy at home, you still have to choose to brighten it up. Do favorite things, journal, exercise, get out of the house, do something creative, incorporate bright colors into your bedroom or clothes
10. You can’t save. Don’t betray them by taking what you can’t save. Everything is really done according to reason and as if it were with pain, that is, it is needed through.
11. Don’t take it personally. There are many mean and hurtful things a parent can say to you. Remember that they are only expressing their pain or frustration. Whatever they say has nothing to do with you. You don’t have to listen to vanity. This will help you to let go of the feeling that there is something wrong with you, or that you deserve punishment.
12. Let go of resentment so you can move forward. There can be so many emotions that we suppress even in our adult years. Perhaps we say too much about ourselves because we choose to forget our childhood injuries, but it takes some soul searching to recognize suppressed feelings. It’s okay to deal with them. Acknowledging them will help you move forward. Until before them, the same patterns of affection and relationships. Heal these emotions so that you can finally move forward without emotional obstacles.
13. Learn how to nurture and protect yourself. We look to our parents to nurture and protect us, but when you have a bipolar parent, most of the time they can’t do that and it actually hurts. Take back your power and become the nurse and protector you’ve been waiting for or waiting for, you!
14. I should not be ashamed to have a mentally ill parent. Be open and talk. You will find that people have similar adventures in your home. You will know that your story and pain telling times are important. It can help others and by telling it, it helps free you from it. You can also explore local groups that have other people who have dealt with mental illness with a bipolar parent or parents.
15. Release the victim. This is what you must feel in your heart, but everything in life is really for us and not against us. By letting go of thinking things are against you, by taking back your power, and life does not look sad to you. It is absolutely beautiful. Perception. Perception. Perception.
16. Prison break free You created yourself. When I was younger, I built thick walls for protection. I did this so that I could handle my father. You were always on pins and needles, not knowing when he wanted to break out or attack. So I hid all my feelings. I didn’t want to be hurt because I felt weak and then he could attack me. I basically hid myself. We have learned many defense mechanisms so that the child no longer serves us. Let your guard down. Love in Know that vulnerability is strength and this is when you are truly invulnerable. You no longer constantly protect yourself, and break your walls with an anxious blow. To have loving relationships in your life, to love yourself and to let go.
17. Heal the past by letting the past be the past. The past is and the future has not yet come. We have it all, and we always have it now. Therefore let the present moment be beautiful. You have a choice whether to choose Love or Fear. Learn from the past and move forward.
18. It’s okay to cry. It should be for everyone. It’s okay to feel your feelings. This is their only free way. I will also accuse them. And for that matter 13, to be your nurse, you give yourself permission to feel. This is how we naturally heal even if our society tells us to shut down and suppress our senses. Set yourself free.
19. Educate yourself on Bipolar disorder. We can get frustrated when we don’t know why something is happening. Read on symptoms and how to deal with someone with bipolar disorder.
20. Love. Choose Love. Choose health. Choose freedom. You have a choice in what to focus on. Love yourself enough.
