King Roduey once asked the plaintive question, “Can’t we all just get along?”
Although Mr. King’s question is directed at a racially diverse world, it begins with others at home. If you cannot live harmoniously with your family, how do you expect to live with your roommates, or with the people who work or meet in your neighborhood?
When I moved my nephew with our family, it occurred to me that we had nothing to do with our children, he had been brought up in another family; in the “unwritten rule” as we live, maybe it was someone else. So I decided to write down the rules that I felt were the most important to help us all get along.
When I had finished, I took out the home listing and asked everyone in the house to read them. I then gave them the opportunity to discuss and change the rules, including additions or deletions that were necessary. Everyone in the house realizes that they contribute to the set of rules, and we come to adopt the rules by quick agreement.
Please note – these are the rules in my house. Whether there are adults living in your home, other family members coming to stay for a long time, or just guests coming for the holidays, I encourage you to make your home listings available to everyone. Waiting ahead can save you a lot of drama and pain!
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These rules are intended for all residents of the house, whether permanent, temporary resident, or guest. Following these rules will help everyone in the family feel respected and find a way to contribute.
- Respect for privacy. Respect for privacy means that we are all provided with our own space to keep things private and enjoy a time of peace and quiet. These personal spaces (rooms) are considered “off limits” when the resident is not around, regardless of what is needed or not. Exception: There will be no expectation of privacy if illegal activity is suspected. In addition, there is no expectation of privacy for computers data (eg, e-mail, etc.) on computers belonging to the home. Parents reserve the right to enter the space privately at any time – but we will only do so if deemed necessary – that is, we will respect your right to privacy as much as possible.
- Keep your personal space chaste. You are right, it is not supposed to be entered without reason. We still expect you to keep your personal space neat and tidy. It is for homeowners, and for you. Besides, you will open the door at some point…
- Keep clothes in common areas Common areas include living room, dining room, family room, kitchen, patio and deck, bathroom, etc. Basically anywhere that isn’t specifically personal or someone else’s space. We all share these areas, and we need to keep them clean. Put off your shoes and clothes; if you use a disk, clean it and put it down and pick it up after you.
- Help. If you have more time and energy than someone else in the house, be considerate and help. Maybe you won’t cook those eggs, but someone would surely clean the pan for you and take them away anyway. Once he can do the same to you when you worked.
- Take a few minutes every day to do something clean. If each of us took 15-30 minutes a day to tear down, turn, turn, or generally set up, our house would be bright, shiny, cheerful, and very pleasant to live in – and we wouldn’t have to pay anyone back. or we lose our week cleaning all together!
- Support yourselfpersonal hygiene. This includes showering/bathing, brushing teeth, keeping hair and clothes clean, washing clothes (and washing them clean) . No one wants to be around a smelly person. ‘Nuff,’ he said.
- Look at other people’s schedules. There is a lot going on. Please understand that people are busy, and there are places to do things. Share your schedule and plan ahead if you need help getting somewhere. It is not fair to someone than their appointment, or even “down-time” that you did last minute. or they have recently been completely forgotten by previous plans. If you have forgotten, it is appropriate to be apologetic and acknowledge the inconvenience.
- Contain civil disputes You may disagree. But don’t shout, holler, or act in a different way that can be considered bullying. Please take the time to talk things out and consider other people’s perspectives. Things can usually be worked out if we take the time to try.
- Money is tight. Because everyone Please consider the shopping list, and how you handle the items may be repaired.
- Anybody Unless your brain is working really hard, smoking is not allowed in the house, and preferably not on the property. Remember that smoking can tell on your clothes, breath, skin, … Some of us are allergic; others will only find it unattractive.
- No drugs. Unless your doctor has prescribed them. To you Exceptions on the calculation of the drug, to be used separately.
- Alcohol use is appropriate for your age and situation. This means if you are under 21 , do not drink alcohol. If you are over 21 and have a history of alcohol abuse, please do not drink alcohol in our home. If you are over 21 and like to party, please consider and limit your alcohol use to levels that are conducive to a harmonious life. And so, that the father may know, I will be his judge.
- No member of the same sex (or of the same sex, as the case may be) in your room. Unless you are married. (“Common Law” count.
- Parties are planned. We do not understand that you need to prepare your party in secret and invite 50 friends over us’ not re- home. Let them despise it. We think the parties are fun, but we need to be on the same page. If you would like to take part, we will discuss together, the invitation plan, the discussion of expectations, food, activities, limitations, and who will pay for everything. All party guests will be expected to follow the house rules, and the party host will be responsible for doing so. Note: If you are partying and breaking our family rules elsewhere, don’t hide it. Call us. We come and you. We would rather have you safe and sound at home, and dealing with work later, than to have you in prison or dead. You do not want?
- We’re watching you. If it’s past 11:00 p.m. it’s going to happen, tell us when to expect you. It’s not that we’re trying to control you and keep tabs on you – we care, we want to make sure you’re safe, and we’ll worry until you’re safe again. It is what we wanted.
- I love your music. That’s how we do it. Before we speak to ourselves and our neighbours, consider the time of day, which is wise for all. You could see him asking. There is at least one woman at home who does not know the songs that swear every 10 words.
- we love emails. Televisions, gaming systems, and other electronic entertainment that can be found in common areas should be shared (not monopolized), and treated well. If you want to reserve some time, communicate in advance. If we forget, gentle reminders are appropriate.
- ask for help No one can do everything by himself. People like that are necessary, and people like that can be helpful. We are also happy to offer help!
- The Freak-Out-Factor. You have a message. Bad news. Really bad news. Do not hide; it only makes it worse. Just be aware that bad news has some kind of “game-e-factor” associated with it. Understand the level of game-play and give some warning. Then, say your message, the game allows us, and then we wait for you to finish. When we do, we’ll take a look at how to problem solving. Note: This is not allowed in the nuisance. Please avoid it altogether. Be responsible and do what you can.
- Finally, homeowners imagine everything. Of course, this may not be the wind, but in the long run our names are on letters, bills, bills, etc. We are on the hook for everything that happens in our house, so we get it. the last word We hope they will trust us to make those final decisions with respect in mind, not power. If you think we’re on a potential trip, you have the option of leaving home (unless you’re our biological child and under 18 – then you’re stuck with us until 18). But we hope you don’t think we’re on a power trip. It’s just taking too much!
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The foundation of all these rules is mutual respect and responsibility. We all strive to be contributing members of society and it starts in our home. Treat each other how you would like us to treat you, and we are all very well!
Your friends friends are welcome in our home, as long as the responsible adult is present. He is a grown man of eighteen, and has proved himself trustworthy, respected, and capable of commanding his friends. Until it’s decided to be an “adult,” don’t invite friends over without first talking to the homeowners and arranging for someone to be at home. This is for your safety, as well as home maintenance, property and reputation.
