The first day at work is difficult. But what’s more difficult is the first day and weeks after dropping your child or baby off at daycare. All of your worries and fears appear long before you pull into the driveway and hand off your baby to a caregiver or hug and kiss your preschooler or kindergartner. Every horror story you’ve heard about daycare is on the way to work, and before you even finish starting your computer you’re on the phone to the newspaper provider, whether an individual or an entity, requesting information about your son or daughter.
Here are five tips from someone who is a preschool/daycare teacher and a 6-year-old manager, or at home daycare provider and someone who I had already dropped off two children at school and daycare (20 and 13 now) as well as preparing my younger children for their first experience in the fall.
1. Witness: Babies and children can pick up on the energy they experience. Many moms and dads are confused, anxious, scared and stressed about leaving their children for the first time and in the first few weeks. This is perfectly natural, but it is better to learn to control your emotions so that the child does not feel them either. This is your child, and you naturally feel that no one can really care for him as much as you can — and maybe you’re right. But your sighs, tears, high-pitched voice, or any other signs of stress actually cause the child to act upset, anxious, and nervous.
Children are great imitators and learn from us how to deal with situations. If you are upset, take time and cry so that your child, especially the baby, will detect those feelings from you. Try to cut down on stress, especially in the morning. Make sure to leave plenty of time for your drive. Prepare items to take with you that night. If you are religious, pray for a moment before walking into the daycare or removing your child from the car seat . Cut back on the caffeine a little in the morning as an incentive. deep breathing. Use a calm and happy voice when taking your child to daycare to talk about a happy day. For especially young moms voice and facial expressions are important indicators of the situation and your facial expressions and sounds are what your child is. will answer Try to stay long enough for your child to settle down and need to spend time with your caregiver, but don’t stay too long because that separation is much harder on the children, and on you.
2. Make it easy to wind down: Be sure to focus on lots of snuggles, kisses, and happy words. Talk to your child, even your baby, and confirm that Ms. . he’s going to take very good care of you while mom goes to work (not goodbye — you should be doing fun stuff with her). When mommy comes home, he will play with you and help you more. I love you very much. Get out to the car, shout if you need to fix your makeup and go to work.
3. Call Information: If you feel the need to call and check on your child, go ahead. But remember that it is hard on the staff if you do it several times a day. If the teacher has time to talk to you, that time is taken away from the children or other children. They try to call for sleep at generally accepted times like 1030 am or 200 pm when babies are usually sleeping the most or between 1-3 for toddlers and preschoolers. Also, make sure you record your daily concerns, who does what during the day, when, where and why what the child does, such as what you ate when you slept, how much and diaper changes and any activities they enjoyed.
4. Watch the teacher or caregiver with the children: See how the teacher or caregiver reacts when you drop off your child. Are they warm and welcoming? Do you feel or see them comforting upset babies? Will the children need extra time? How many people are in the room? Be aware that this allows for time with 4 parents and 4 children in some cases. quite hectic.
5. Make time happy, but not too happy: Don’t overcompensate for what’s gone. Be happy to see your child, to talk lovingly with her or him; It helps and yes, spend extra reading a book or playing toys or tummy time on the floor when you get home. It is good to cook dinner 30 minutes later so that you and your child can have extra time together. Encourage dad to spend another 30 minutes when he gets playing house with her, so you can cook without distraction.
5. Evaluate your expectations: Are your expectations high? Remember if your child is in a daycare center setting he will be one of the few getting attention. Don’t expect your child to receive more or all of the attention that they received at one time with you. They can still receive quality care even if they wait a few extra minutes to get their bottle. After all, how often do you drop everything to address their needs? Do you jump in the shower, or do you have to wait a moment until you dry off? But there is a difference between not caring and center caring. If your expectations are very high, I recommend a nanny or children provider for your home. However, many caregivers are excellent at balancing children and through each special attention and affection. Find a caregiver who can do both and have a treasure.
7. Listen to your intuition: There is nothing like it in the world, especially when it comes to our children. If you don’t see improvement after a few weeks or even a few days, maybe this isn’t the right child care. Order for you. If it is not, you need to find other arrangements both for your child’s safety, job security and to make changes in your mind. But remember, Monday mornings are hard, your child spent the whole weekend with you and now they are gone. Also remember that children will experience separation anxiety at certain ages, so make sure your decisions are based on your and your child’s development. succeed in daycare.
First of all, make sure that your child’s needs are met. They receive the quality of care and affection that they pay attention to at points throughout the day. If you meet all of those needs and practice these or similar tips and techniques to your skill set, you’ll be much more relaxed and leave feeling better about your project. If sometimes that doesn’t happen, and things don’t get better, the only choice is to wait for your expectations and desires. But do this first and see if your worries, anxieties, fears and worries can become comfort, care and happiness in new and exciting experiences your child will have. Enjoy the best of both worlds and enjoy the wonderful opportunities to be with your child.
