Yesterday, two neighbor boys came to our door to advertise magazine ads for the school beggar. The little girl was about 7 years old and was chatting, although it was clear that she had no reason to follow when I finally chose the magazine to buy.
But the brother, though older by a year or two, and taller as it were by a head, withdraws, and his sister does all the talking.
I know the name of the boy I know and I know the parents well but I am hoping that he is involved. come, I asked the name. “Preston,” she said, but her face was red and she moved back even after her sister’s little chat. I figured where he was supposed to sign, he wrote the check, and the two of them went, the brother still silent, until I thought about hearing from afar, and the girl nervously talking about her first sale.
As a child he himself was driven away with pain, I pity the child. My classmate back brought it to me in high school who absolutely refused to say a word to anyone but the teacher. Years later I heard that he had become aware of his own death and that our class had failed in some way. Could we have done something to change the tragic way in which the child’s life ended, or was the problem something beyond the power of a few young people pay?
Embarrassment is a common problem and varies in severity. If you have a child who completely rejects any attempts you make to help him socialize, you probably need to seek professional help, but if your child only shows shyness around new people he meets, or in new situations, there are many things to consider. to help you overcome it.
1. Avoid Labeling Your Child Shy
I remember my mother telling people too well, “He’s a flighty man. Just give him time and he’ll warm to you.” Unfortunately, portraying me as a shy person has distanced me further from people than I expected to now think of me as “different” from the average child. Although I know it’s not like that now, I felt as if everyone was looking at me when I entered the room, and thinking “She’s that shy girl.”
2. Provide a non-threatening environment for your child to interact with others
Whenever possible, arrange rides for your child who only knows people well. The more experience he has in a safe atmosphere, the easier it will be when the occasional stranger is introduced into the mix.
Add exposure to strangers slowly. If possible, make sure that only one new contact is added at a time and wait until your child is comfortable with that person before adding another.
Try not to wait while you are in a situation where your child’s anxiety is likely to arise and you expect him to behave in a socially acceptable way. If you visit the library regularly, coach your child ahead of time that the librarian is a friend and it would be nice if he said thank you when the librarian finishes checking out his books for him. Don’t make her flow if she forgets, but remind her to visit the library again.
In the same way, talk to your child before the time when you know he will have an adult, who may or may not know. By giving him simple words, he can say it more easily; words like, “hello, thank you, or goodbye.” When he knows that he can talk to someone he knows well, he begins to have the confidence that he really isn’t different from everyone else.
Telling him something about the person you are going to meet can also help. Saying, “Mrs. Jones has six cats, and one of them is only 3 feet long,” may stimulate your child’s curiosity to overcome some of her fears. What child doesn’t want to know how a cat walks with only 3 legs?
3. Accentuate your child’s strengths
We are often told to praise our children when they do something out of the ordinary. A shy child, we need to look harder for some praise, because they tend to stay in the background. We require special forces and mention them often. If your child is good at math, praise him. If a friend has a child who has trouble with math, perhaps asking your shy child to give the other child some pointers will give him a chance to take the lead and learn how to feel.
4. Practice Your Little Social Skills
Most people know that they are shy shy-children. It’s something that he probably thinks he has to spend every day to discuss a private matter with them. Find out what bothers them most about their interactions with others and help them develop fair debt collection practices in these things
They work on things like eye contact, smiling, good attitude, speaking clearly, listening well, but don’t try to cram everything into one session. He has the ability to try and practice one feature until it becomes a habit before moving on to another. Open communication with him so you can discuss whether the current features are working or not and how he can improve even more.
5. Teach Your Child Basic Conversational Skills
Finally, all children, not just shy ones, need to learn basic conversation skills. My husband and I often find ourselves sitting next to each other in a restaurant where one of the partners is talking about a not-so-simple dinner time. And not only do they not stop talking, but the conversation is exactly about him doing what he is talking about.
Do your child a favor and teach him that, according to Dale Carnegie’s great book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, the secret to good communication is to listen more than to talk and when you do. to converse, to direct the conversation in this way, as was said of another man.
People want to talk about themselves, and by asking questions you show them plenty of opportunities to do so. Give your child some questions to ask. “My dad says you play basketball. What’s your pain?” “Do you have a Star War Collection? How big is it? Will you show me some time?” be it, he can win friends and associate learn better by asking and listening. pay attention to the answers.
The 5 ideas above to help your nervous child are not magic. Even putting them all on the line won’t guarantee that your child will suddenly turn into a social butterfly, but they will go a long way in helping him get the occasional pain out of the way. It is gravely aporated so that the company of others may be enjoyed.
