What happens to a woman when she decides not to dye her hair anymore? Not an easy decision. An internal turmoil begins to build, pushing the woman into unknown territory. I can tell you first hand, I too had this fight with myself and I will share with you the process I had to go through. Thinking about reading this article… I can do this, so I feel so empowered. On the other hand, run to the nearest beauty salon, asking to dye your hair once. That is the case with us women. We can be varied and aggressive, and no one will move us until the time is set.
Battle
It will be the first battle that you do. The thought should be a warning sign, “this may hurt something!” Suddenly it’s a strange thought that shines through. Shaking your head in utter disbelief, thinking, never in a thousand years chicken pox. You know you have to take care of it or that spreads wild fires. You break a sweat at the thought. You look in the mirror and share your thoughts out loud.
I’m 51 and so tired of dying hair. Who am I trying to impress? What is the idea that scares me so much? I will not see the old woman. I have a nice smile. More hair than I am!
The part of you that wants to hold on to your youth like millions of other women, or at least the image of youth dictated by society, washes over your mind and begins to voice its concerns. The thoughts are not light, they start to make you cry, and it is not enough.
Are you crazy? Why don’t you dye your hair? Will he think you’re old? Your husband will not love you, and he will not think you are lovable. He will go after another woman! You look like your mother!
Suddenly you find yourself controlling yourself, yelling at yourself in the mirror! “STOP … I’M MORE THAN A HAIR ON YOUR HEAD!” Calm down… you look again to whisper… “I’m more than silver”.
This is the worst battle of all. but I would like to tell you that most women are not easy. The battle rages for many years until one finally escapes, accepting what he truly wants “for himself”. Many people even stop at a couple of times until you finally get “it” right, whatever that “is” is for you.
Transition
It’s decided and you’ll never decide hair colors again. First, let me say congratulations! Now please go on…this will work! You can do one or the other. You may know that it is very short, and that the money will come in an intemperate manner, terrible to all who are around you. This is what I did and it was awesome! However, don’t listen to me, sometimes I want to ship flint! You can also pull your hair back by going with a torulo, taking a couple of years to pull all the color out of your hair.
He failed the first time doing this. Yep… I cut it all off, l loved it… but one person’s negative comment moved me and posted it. to color hair I was so disappointed. I was miserable. I used to see that silver fox in the mirror and I lost it.
It may be nice to talk to you in the low lights, highlights, or any other color to go through this process, but from the one who did both, take it… The only way is to cut through it or withdraw and walk. through him Silver’s future is still open. It certainly did this for me, and it only prolonged the process. Now you let go and be reborn. I pull it back and I can see silver staring at me, like an old friend… Say old? I mean a friend, welcoming me home!
The transition may take some time, and people are bound to ask what you are doing. Your husband will give you this confused look, which means he thinks my wife is not looking so hot these days! He can also offer to give you money, and yes, as your hair has become money. BEWARE! Don’t let them fall! Pocket the silver and go buy you great clothes that go with your awesome silver. You’ll get through this and before long, you’ll be a hot mama!
Be positive about what you are doing. If you wear a smile and walk with confidence, it will feed your enthusiasm, I promise! Remember “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. One person doesn’t like it, but three others do. Don’t base your actions on what others think. If you look in the mirror and feel comfortable with what you see… then that’s all that matters.
Acceptance
The world tells us that she is young, beautiful and without any flaws. Who said silver has a flaw anyway? I earned the money and I’m not sorry for it. Who can say that a woman is not beautiful in the 50s, 60s … and even the 70s? I want to accept who I am in my life at this point. Letting go and allowing my silver to shine through is liberating. Getting to that point was tough. A process that we as women all need to go through at different times in our lives. I’ll leave you with one last thing.
May it be well with you that we are as much as silver in our hair.
