Years ago my husband asked him to be the executor of his father’s will. Frank (my husband) was touched that his father trusted him enough to do this, so he quickly agreed. Unfortunately, my father recently died and my husband, and now we object to me, that he can really be the executor of the will.
First, we had the reading of the will in the same week that the father died, because all his children live in different states and the only time we could all be together was at the funeral. This was difficult because no one had enough time to grieve yet. On the contrary, the will was simply stated. He named my husband as executor and ordered everything to be divided equally between the four children. We thought Sonos was simple enough. Sell, collect and share. He did not die well and was as unruly as his father. For no one said what goods were to be divided, and, with the exception of a few, none of us ever knew what had been done. Anyway, all the children have returned to their cities and of course my husband (and) is left to find out what to do. After an extensive search of his house and the safe deposit box together, we finally found all the entries, deeds, titles, papers the old ones, the rest we need. Why he didn’t keep all the great things in one place we’ll never know.
It was figured out that the next step should be to file the insurance money so we could pay for the funeral. It was discovered that he had several accounts, but only one of them stated a specific beneficiary and that one could not be directly transferred to funeral. home because it was a Veteran’s plan. Finally, all the children had to submit separate claim forms for other accounts and after 1-1/2 months, the funeral home is still waiting to be paid. They are very patient about it though and will take the money soon. This step was not as easy as we thought it would be. Filing for insurance claims is time consuming and they want to know that we are no longer reliable, just like when their father’s parents died and their SS#!!!
Then we looked at three properties to sell. Well, this is when we decided we needed professional help. It turns out that some things things are considered “state” goods and some things are considered “non-state” goods. . whose names depend on deeds or titles. I went online and saw articles about “executors of wills” and most of them stated that although you can make a will on your own, a lawyer is supposed to handle the estate. So that’s what we did. While the lawyer will do a lot for us in the second year, we still have to do more tedious work. There were three houses that had to be vacated, cleaned and handed over to Realtors. Trust me, this wasn’t easy, especially since you don’t live in the same state as their homes. By the way – if it is considered “non-existent”, then you must pay for all costs. with that item. It’s not even worth it. So needless to say, my husband and I put out quite a bit of “getting up front” . money from our savings Eventually this income will be settled when the estate is settled, which all the other children have agreed to pay us, but this could be a long way down the road.
We are now at the stage of selling vehicles. At first it was difficult to sell a truck because now very few people buy used full size trucks because of gas mileage< /a>. With gas at $4.00 per gallon in most places, I’m sure you wouldn’t want a vehicle that only gets 11 miles to the gallon. So we decided to pay the very only thing that we decided to “do”. We still have his antique cars for sale. Even that is not easy. The 69 Oldsmobile 98 is not a popular car. I wonder why not!! Luckily we have a lawyer to handle some of the tougher, more complicated things like selling stock and filing taxes. All the taxes that will be paid is one area that we will not even attempt in our own.
I guess what I want to say in this article is this: The next time someone asks me to be an “executioner” husband, I’m going to tell my husband to pat himself on the back, be grateful that someone trusts him, smiling. and then very quickly – they say NO.
