Are you married or already married and want to do everything you can to make your wedding a success? Psychotherapist Laure B. Steinberg, LMHC, was interviewed for the common reasons some marriages fail and tips for successful marriages.
Tell me a little about yourself.
“I am a licensed Psychotherapist in private practice in Manhattan’s Union Square where we treat individuals, couples, and families. I earned my graduate degrees at NYU and my training at the Albert Ellis Institute and the Academy of American Sexologists. href=”https://e-info. vn/tag/treat-anxiety”>treat anxiety disorders, depression, addictions, professional and personal problems, as well as sexual function and anxiety problems, please visit my website: www.LaurelSteinberg.com”
What are the common reasons some marriages don’t work out?
“There are many reasons for the dissolution of a marriage, but generally speaking, divorce occurs when there is frequent great conflict or its polar opposite, the loss of comfort and connection. The main conflicting causes that are joined in the towel are money, sex. with infidelity) and problems with the laws. a > , disagreements about education, etc.
According to www.divorcerate.org, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 74% of these marriages end in divorces She is significantly more likely to be divorced if her parents divorced. This suggests a tendency to choose divorce as a solution to problems in marriage and to believe that marriage is not an “eternal duty” that can be learned in childhood.
What are some tips for a successful marriage?
“One tip of marriage is to agree in advance to share a healthy relationship with money. Be as debt free as possible before marriage (besides student loans ) to start off on a solid footing Create a family budget a> that includes saving for the future ( baby, house, retirement, travel, etc.) -money”>extra money to spend on special deals. Compare goals to actual performance on a monthly basis. Learn to love living within your means, not buying things you can’t afford, knowing you’re preparing. To your future together.
Talking magic between the sheets'” making part of your sex life a nurturing relationship. While it is a “spontaneous plan” an oxymoron of sorts, sometimes we spread ourselves so thin that if we don’t think about it, it won’t happen, reinforcing that special bond that keeps love and passion alive.
The other tip is to unconditionally accept (and trustfully respect) your spouse’s family. You may not always understand their words or behavior, but if they are important or dear to your spouse, make them important and dear to you. Speaking critically, or encouraging your spouse to choose you over her, will divide you and leave him/her feeling guilty and sad. Even if you manage to pull it off, the victory will be hollow, ending in anger that can cause permanent damage to the relationship.
Finally, we encourage the couple to make every effort to keep new projects from the table every day without envying what was said or done in the past days. Everyone errs; lovingly provide space for your spouse to do better! You will be glad you did!
What types of professional help is available to a couple who are having a difficult time keeping their marriage happy?
Couples therapy can be very helpful for those struggling to keep their marriage afloat. During the session, couples learn to communicate effectively so that when difficult issues are discussed, both come away victorious. Couples learn to relate more lovingly to each other and to think, explore and enjoy enhanced relationships. Couples therapy that doesn’t involve homework is like learning to swim by watching instructional videos. You can’t improve your skills without getting your feet wet!
Thank you, Laurel, for sharing tips for a successful marriage in this interview.
Resources: DivorceRate.com
Recommended Readings:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/5644514/increasing_your_sexual_activity_in.html?cat=5″> Increasing Sexual Activity in Marriage
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/119410/how_to_put_the_sizzle_back_in_your.html?cat=74″> How to Put the Sizzle Back in Your Marriage
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2859838/how_to_deal_with_an_annoying_husband.html?cat=72″> How to deal with an annoying husband
