Every summer my grandson comes to spend the summer at my house. This situation should ideally be when it is the same age as the child. Unfortunately, that’s where the similarities end. My sister-in-law has a completely different style, and my nephew has a completely different sense of humor.
Knowing where to draw the line can be tricky. I want to be a cool aunt, but I don’t want to undermine my sister-in-law or frustrate my children. After several years of this erection, and the aunt finally counting 19 children ranging in age from one to 27, I found a few truths.
Never undermine the authority of their parents. One sister-in-law will not allow her children to drink for any reason. While I don’t regularly give soda-pop to my kids, I’m also not very strict about it. If I start sneaking soda with my nieces and nephews, not only will I have to discover that it will hurt our relationship. Forbidden drinks is just one example, but it shows that I respect my parents’ decisions and don’t “go out” when they are with me.
It’s fine to briefly explain a different point of view sometimes, but without getting involved, their parents are shut out. That attitude tends to come naturally and doesn’t need the help of an aunt or the coolest person on the planet.
It’s simple thin. You don’t have to arrange events for your nieces and nephews all the time. He tries to avoid buying love and affection for bigger and better things. Just like another place that is safe and loved enough. A few hours often, it is better than once a year, exhaling blush. Go out to ice cream cone, be available to talk or stop by if they live nearby. Make yourself a part of their lives.
Weep your summit Show requests for sports calendars, concert times and any other important event in your grandchild’s life. Although you cannot do more scheduled activities, having the information in the calendar makes it possible.
Keep your promises. My oldest son is upset about this day trip that never happened. If you think it, do it. Sadly, I am guilty of this step as well. In my defense I’m a big dreamer, and just considering big possibilities, but my nephew set the plan in stone. We followed another plan, but I still feel bad. Don’t make any kind of promise that you can’t keep.
Overall, the key to being a cool aunt is being yourself. I know it’s very cliché, but it’s the truth. Kids can really get to know you and in turn you can be a real part of their lives.
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