A friend recently talked about those fake nipples that she can use if she (or he?) wants to display visible nipples while still enjoying the benefits of brassiere services. I’ve seen these before and they look like baby bottle nipples to me. They look rather large and rubbery – and I wonder how they stick. My friend comes from the perspective – women are not embarrassed or at least uncomfortable with visible nipples anyway.
Of course I can only speak for myself here, but the answer is NO. Visible nipples do not embarrass me, nor do they make me uncomfortable. Appearances are sort of self-sustaining for me, but I’ve never really been too self-conscious about my moms, no matter how small they are, and the general consensus seems to be that they’re big, fat, melony people. First, what do I worry about typical male aesthetic choices? Second, I think that the general consensus may just be a mistake or a myth. Certainly some people love big breasts – and certainly others favor small and changeable ones – and certainly plenty of people enjoy different shapes, sizes and bodies types. I’m certainly happy to see different female forms – both lean and voluptuous.
But I return to the realm of nipples. When I was younger, I wore bras because that was just what one was supposed to do? However, sometimes I thought to myself, ‘You know, he doesn’t need help, why is he wearing pants anyway?’ I never thought bras were uncomfortable, but I thought they were at least mildly annoying because the straps slipped here & there and the loops are sometimes loose and the framework wrinkle or band, etc.. Maybe part was my problem, because I never It took a good amount of time to inspect the bra, but I was very bothered by the frequent mismatch of my bras. I really don’t want a shirt that looks wrinkled or lumpy under my shirt – and I certainly don’t want the unholy fiber aesthetic of a padded brassiere. My solution was to just stop wearing bras altogether.
Yes, this happens on my nipples sometimes when I stick them through my shirt, but I don’t really think or care too much. Well, once in a while, at work, I would experience a sense of flight indecency and feel compelled to cross my arms in front of my chest while walking. But what is so inappropriate about nipples? We all have these things; we have all seen them. I understand that certain traits are considered sexual in women. I understand that there are certain situations that seem to call for a little more discretion or professionalism. In these scenarios, I can always use a film under my shirt to tone down the nipple action — but overall, I don’t really care if my nipples show. Is this too impudent, or tasteless, or challenging me?
In addition, I’ve pierced my nipples and the metal buttons actually show through a lot of my shirts – so for those of you who are stupid, it looks like I probably have double nipples or double nipples. Double the fun or double the indecency?
Are the nipples visible, unimportant or blatantly inappropriate? And if they are indeed blatantly inappropriate, what is the point of fake nipples? Does overemphasizing a part of the body that is already too sexualized make things even sexier, so that a certain social religion is destroyed? Or is it another strange example of the sexual double standard in our society, an idea along the lines that if you want to be a little modest at all, you’d better be a little modest in an exaggerated way; otherwise you would keep everything under wraps.
